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Age: 33
Gender: Female
Topic: Psychiatry
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Location: Jaipur

I am totally confuse. feeling upset. about almost 4 months

Dr.
Hi xxxx , Ms. xxxx will take up your case.
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Good Morning xxxx! I am here to help you, please tell me more about your problem.
I don't recognize my problem. something is not right but I dun know what
I m fedup of problems. I need a solution n thoda sa peace so that I can prepare myself for new life
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Hi xxxx let me know if I can call you now
calling is not possible
can we chat ??
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xxxx it's better if we talk, especially since you feel you don't have much clarity
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But
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If you still prefer chat we can go ahead with text
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Your call
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Your decision*
thnx
Dr.
Alright, why don't you tell me, what your goal for today's session is
it's not about decision
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Okay
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Go ahead. So what is your goal
I don't have a clear idea, but I want to understand that whAt is going on
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Okay what is going on where?
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Personal life? Career?
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Which area
I am feeling trapped
everywhere
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Tell me more
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xxxx unless you tell me more details I will not be able to help you
I guess your questions will help
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You need to help me understand what you are going through so I can help
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So tell me more
well no personal life
no career
Dr.
Okay. What do you want to change about your personal life and career
no friends
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Do you want to start work?
yes
but m not allowed
Dr.
Okay. Why are you not allowed to work?
my papa want me to work with his rules n regulations. he never deny for anything but
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Are you there?
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Okay so he's letting you work right? With certain conditions..
my life seems perfect to others
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Then why are you saying you aren't allowed?
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I am not concerned about how other people perceive you or your life. I am concerned only about what makes you unhappy and what you want to change.
coz his rules are not practical in today's life
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Please answer my questions
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Okay. So given his rules you feel you cannot work?
I am realy confuse dr
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Pls answer my questions
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12:33: Okay. So given his rules you feel you cannot work?
I think I have never lived a life which I wanted to
yes
he is a good man but one should change with time. it's the rule of nature too
Dr.
Okay so you have two options. 1) To fight for your desire to work, irrespective of who it may annoy and go against whoever gets angry and start working. Or 2) accept the reality that you cannot work, make peace with it and focus on something else.
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You cannot control and change people.
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You father has his own perspectives a d he will function in the manner he sees best.
you are right dr
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If you don't see eye to eye with him you can either fight it or go along with it.
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Saying I don't like it, but continuing to allow yourself to feel sad, is not going to help.
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True change is important and sometimes necessary. But you cannot force people to change.
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People have to change because they feel the need to change.
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You cannot force your father to change.
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You can only accept it or confront it and fight it.
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Choose. And once you choose, start working on that.
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The longer you say I want this, but he won't allow. You are wasting your time, resources and energy. And you definitely won't be happy. Nor can anyone else make you happy
is it that easy ?
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No one said it's easy.
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Life wasn't meant to be easy.
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But you have to live it right?
right
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You can choose to be unhappy, or you can choose to put your effort in something and have a purpose to life.
I can't live this pathetic life
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That's because you believe that life has to be easy. That your father has to change. That you should be allowed to work.
I feel like I hv lost all my confidence
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Nothing good comes out of this attitude
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So start building it.
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No one can stop you when you want to grow on a personal front
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There will always be obstacles
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Success lies in how well you can overcome obstacles
thnx dr
I am feeling better
Dr.
Are you there? Please respond.
I should consantrat on what you said.
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It would have been better if we could have spoken over the phone. To help you understand this better.
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There are many things in life that is not in your control. The key is to identify what little bit is actually in your control and to Focus on that
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The more you focus on things outside your control, the more unhappy and dissatisfied you will feel and the more frustrated you will be
I try to keep focusing on things realy worth.
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Not things that are 'really worth'
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Focus on things you can control
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There are many things worth it. But you still can't control it.
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Life and death is not in my hands. But I can control how happy I will be, however long I live
things I control
Dr.
Yes. And things you can control is mostly limited to your perspective, your attitude, your behavior and your choices.
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That is all that we can unfortunately control. Nothing more.
I m from a small town of xxxx, the traditional jail for women. I guess this will help you to understand me better
I dunt like to complain
I always try to find ways
but what if I complain some day
I am a human afterall
I feel weak sometimes
is this a shame
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There's nothing wrong in complaining. But there is something wrong in allowing yourself to continue feeling bad.
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I'm not here to allow people to continue to feel bad.
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I'm here to help people make changes
n I am in this wrong dr
I need help
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If you are not looking to make change, it would have helped if you and told me right in the beginning that you are looking to vent out. This is the reason why I asked you what your goal was for this session.
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You can get help only when you have better clarity about what exactly you want
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No one es going to be able to decide what parts of your life to change
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Only you can
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And change is always possible.
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Just because you were born in Rajasthan, doesn't mean you have to continue to live there.
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The are people who leave.
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Yes that will come with its own consequences
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But you have the choice to decide
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To stay on and face life this way
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Or to move out and possibly fight with family
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And all of the other issues that will come with the decision
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Every decision has its own consequence
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The decision to stay on , brings with it then consequences of having to listen to your family and life a conservative life.
I was never like this, I had confidence that I vl solve problem anyhow.
I was never like this, I had confidence that I vl solve problem anyhow.
but I feel tired now
Dr.
The decision to move out, will have different consequences, or fights and lck of support from family
I want some peace
Dr.
So it will help to build your confidence. And confidence comes out by doing things and getting good at it
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You have to work towards getting peace. It doesn't just land on people's lives
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Identify what gives you peace, and work towards it.
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For that, the first step
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Is to define what peace means to you. And then identify the different steps to take to make it possible
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Are you still looking only to complain or make changes?
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I will change my responses accordingly.
I want change
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If you are looking to vent, it's alright
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Everyone needs to vent sometimes
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But after venting, change has to happen
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If you want change,
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You need to look hard at your life.
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Identify where and what you want to change
what is vent , I am not getting
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And then look at how much you can control.
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Venting means, complaining.
is it like let it be happen n sit idle
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Venting means, talking and letting it out..
ohh no I dun want to complain I want to fight n win a better life
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Yes, that is the attitude of a winner
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And that is the perspective you will need to have.
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There will ALWAYS be obstacles
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But most obstacles have a solution
tell me dr, will it help if I go for a vacation or something
Dr.
So for the next one week I will give you a piece of homework.
far from everyone for sometime
far from everyone for sometime
yes please
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Write down, what you want to change in your life. Keep it specific. Very specific and measure.
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Not vague like 'be happy or be peaceful'.
okay
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No. What exactly will make you happy. Or peaceful. Example: having a purpose in life. Or contributing to society. Or being productive.
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You choose what will make you peaceful and happy.
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Once you identify that, if you connect again
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Once you identify that, if you connect again
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We can discuss how you can go about it
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And next step
should I join some ngo n
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If that is what you want to do, then do go ahead.
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It differs from person to person
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You have to find what makes you happy
n what is next step
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Till you don't, you will not find it
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13:09: Write down, what you want to change in your life. Keep it specific. Very specific and measure. This is your next step
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Once you finish this, if you connect again, we can discuss it further
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And let us talk next time. Not text.
thnx again
sure dr
when will I see you again ??
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As soon as you are done with this step above.
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We can connect again and discuss
right dr
see you soon
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I'm glad you are being proactive and taking a decision
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It will help you
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Take care xxxx and all the best.
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