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Age: 22
Gender: Female
Topic: Psychiatry
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Location: Kolkata

I am a student & stressed for my career with family issues and feeling much depressed these days

Do you have any of the following conditions? Chest pain on exercise/exertion
I'm a student, 20 years old I belong to xxxx
Sir, the issue for I got to you is my career conflicting with my family issues
Sir I had been a bio group student preparing for medical entrance
I want to become a doctor
In first attempt I got 71 marks & 147 in the next
Still couldn't get any seat
By the time, parent admitted me in BA honours in a college here
graduation was going on
But I'm not anyway satisfied with it
Now my parents & family members want me to leave my dream & get married
And after that pursue my career in some other field
But I don't want to give up, how can I leave my dream ??? I want to take up another possible attempts
Dr.
Good Afternoon xxxx! I am here to help you, please tell me more about your problem.
I have discussed my issue above
Dr.
Is it okay if I msg you post my call?
sure mam
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Thanks
no problem
mam could you please just inform me that how long this consultation is valid ??
Dr.
Don't worry about the time, I will take care of it
OK mam, just inform me when you get free from another consultation
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Sure xxxx
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We can start our session now
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You there?
yes mam , I'm here
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Okay xxxx
Dr.
Would you like to discuss over a call
Mam I would prefer chat
if you don't have any problem
Dr.
I don't have any problem xxxx, we recommend call consultation but if chats suits you then your call... I am okay with it too
OK mam, please help me out now
how should I cope up with this mess ??
Dr.
Okay
I don't feel like doing anything, not even eating properly
Dr.
Okay
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Have you discussed with your parents ?
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How your dream is important for you
Yes mam I tried but no effect
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What you told them
as they value their so called " samaaj" more than me
Mam I asked them to let me take another possible attempts saying that if I can score 147 from 71, nearly double the score
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How they reacted on it?
then I can get more & achieve my dream
Dr.
Yes
they started scolding me
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Okay
for I didn't get in the past attempts
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Is there any other senior person you can talk to and ask him or her to convince them?
so I should leave & settle my life
not at home mam
may be my friends or teachers
Dr.
Anyone, whose help you can take?
at the college here
or it may be you
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I can talk to them if they are okay
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xxxx, I know you are working about your future but give it some time
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Giving up will not help
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We have to keep trying
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Indian familes unfortunately function this way
mam but I haven't informed them that I am in touch with tou
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They all think marriage is the solution
I think they will get even more angry to hear this
yes they consider marriage to be the Goal of life
Dr.
Yes
but my Goal is ro become a docror
Dr.
Yes xxxx I understand
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But by getting hyper or depressed is it gonna help you reach your goal?
No mam it wont
but I'm unable to find a way out to fight up with my situations
that's why I get depressed
Dr.
I understand xxxx
mam what should I do next to get rid of all these & study well ??
Dr.
xxxx
Dr.
Just focus on what is important to you
Dr.
Tell your parents to give you last option... Just one last time .
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Talk to them till they are convinced
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Don't get angry. Just make a request
mam I tried , after that I called for you... they say that I'm mentally torturing them & not ready to listen
all they say is they are gonna search a groom
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Let them search groom xxxx... This is not overnight thing
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It will take a while
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Meanswhile tell them that you wish to do this
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See xxxx
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At times certain things are not in our control
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However we have to keep thinking of the ways where in we can achieve it
Dr.
See it is happening probably they are not able to trust you because of your past scores
& mam you know, what kind of families they are in search for me, only households one they went somewhere with my pic , the guys mom replied to my pic.... " ladki toh aapki saawli h" for they were in search of a fair complexion girl
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So they thinking you might waste your time
mam tell me one thing aaj k jamaane mei ab gora or saawla kaun dekhta h
Is complexion the basis to judge ??
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Not really xxxx
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But there are people who still think that way
after that my mom started scolding me for I should focus on my face & keep myself this way & that way
that moment I was crying like anything
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xxxx
Dr.
More than you someone needs to talk to your parents
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I guess it's important to make them educated on how marriages work these days
& really couldn't focus on my studies because of all these
yes mam you are right
how should we do this now ??
yes it's true that they are unable to trust me because of my past scores
Dr.
Talk to your teacher or someone
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More than me someone who knows them
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You have to start giving priority to your studies now
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The more you gonna get distracted the more they are gonna believe that you can't study
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And that will make their decision stronger
yes mam .... what should I reply when my mother asks me to prepare chappatis instead of studying that moment
considering households to be more important, she always does so
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Plan your studies according
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You know right you wish to achieve something
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Then start giving time for that as well
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Seek for balamce
ok mam then what I need is to make a timetable so that I could manage both well & then my mother won't trouble me ??
Dr.
Yes take out equal time
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We can't change other people
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But we can change us in order to achieve something
yes that's true
mam could you please help me out in managing time equally
mam are you there ??
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Yes
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How do you want me to help you xxxx
like planning a timetable for me
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What is your schedule
mam I wake up at 5:30 then I study till 8
after that I need half an hour for bath & breakfast
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See xxxx, you are the best person to make your own timetable... Take enough breaks ... Whenever you get time try and study... Get enough sleep during night like 7 hrs minimum
OK mam .... I will make myself
but I'm unable to sleep that much because of this stress
being in bed I would keep thinking all these
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What makes you think that your current schedule is not working?
Dr.
Okay
My mom
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Sleep is important xxxx... Lack of sleep might trouble you in concentration
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Thinking is not gonna solve the problem
whenever any relatives arrives, she asks me to manage
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See as I said listen to her but figure out another time to complete your studies
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I understand that it's difficult when family is not supporting
yes mam it's troubling me
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But giving up also not an option
I have got big blackheads
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Stick it it
unable to concentrate
mam how could I help myself to stop thinking all this ??
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By engaging yourself in activities which are more important
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See when we have exams tomorrow no matter how much other things are important to us we do manage to study right?
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Because we know that is our priority right now
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Same way you need to tell yourself, remind yourself about your priority
OK mam
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Don't repeat the mistake you have done in the past... Just stick to your plan
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This will make you confident
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Okay?
sure mam I will try my best
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Great xxxx
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All the best
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Let me know if you need any other help
no mam nothing else
just this much was my problem
now, I have to work
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Sure
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You can msg me if you have anything later
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Take care
that's what I wanted to know
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