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Age: 24
Gender: Male
Topic: Psychiatry
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Location: Delhi

Hi xxxx , xxxx will take up your case.

Dr.
Good Afternoon xxxx! I am here to help you, please tell me more about your problem.
hello ma'am.. from last several months I'm going through some serious personal and love life related problem.. it may be termed as a serious love failure.. I have already tried my best to get over and move on.. but couldn't succeed.. I think myself mentally ill and don't know how to deal it
Dr.
Okay
I don't find myself mentally active these day as compared to i used to be
Dr.
Okay xxxx
it's also leading to sleeping disorder
Dr.
Okay
what do you think
Dr.
I am okay with anything xxxx... Whatever suits you
ma'am further my problem extends because I'm an introvert personality
neither I hv many friends to discuss my personal life.. nor have much girls in my life to get distracted
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
So what I gather is you are facing difficulty to move on post your breakup
yes
Dr.
Okay
the way she left me has disturbed me substantially
you may call it my male ego or whatever
Dr.
When you broke up?
But I'm not well mentally
Dr.
Okay
we were never in proper relationship but yea.. we were much more than frienda
she started ignoring me 4 months ago
Dr.
Okay
last month I got to know that she's committed to other guy
Dr.
Okay
thereafter we haven't spoken
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
So tell me what have you done to come out of this?
Dr.
Or get over your male ego
I have tried my best not to think about her or anything
Dr.
How have you tried
I have deleted anything relating to her from my phone
Dr.
Okay
But whenever something relating to her comes to me.. I get depressed
for eg. see the coincidence.. her name was also Aditi
and it's affecting me
or making me remind of her
Dr.
Okay
I have tried to get involved but other girls.. but couldn't
with other*
Dr.
Okay
I tired get busy in movie music etc.. but can't even concentrate
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
xxxx do you think it's unfair with you the way she left
sometimes I think I should start another love life to get over it.. but how will I get another love in such type of mental situation
yes.. obviously it was unfair to me
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
Tell me what makes you think it's unfair
ma'am I was totally loyal to her.. I kept asking her that if she's having another guy in her life she may just tell me.. and I'll go from her life without saying anything
But she kept saying.. no not at all
I'm the only person
But I was in doubt
Dr.
Okay
But due to my feelings.. she sept using me
kept*
Dr.
Okay
only for her selfishness
Dr.
So don't you think whatever happened is in a way good for you
Dr.
It's better she moved on, so your life is free of fake relationship?
it is.. but still I can't help myself with my feelings
it hurts to me
Dr.
Just focus on it is now...
Dr.
See break ups are bad
i have invested my whole 3 years in this one sided tyoe relationship
Dr.
No matter how good or bad relationship was
Dr.
But at times certain things are happen for a reason
Dr.
You are saying it's unfair that she left you like that but don't you think it's also unfair that you are still punishing for a bad relationship
Dr.
Investing time in that relationship was your choice as well xxxx... Back then also you were aware something was not right
Dr.
Still you kept investing
Dr.
And it was your choice
ma'am she was nice or bad or whatever type of girl.. but at the end of day I used to find only herself to talk about my day and life
Dr.
Yes I understand that xxxx
I was aware that something is not right but she kept giving a hope
Dr.
But the fact now is she has chosen not to be with you
and in that hope.. I couldn't refrain myself
Dr.
Matter how unfair it is, that's the fact you will have to accept
Dr.
Unless you don't accept it, it's gonna be difficult to move on
even after knowing the truth.. it's still difficult for me to refrain myself from texting her.. I don't know how to do that
Dr.
It's gonna be difficult xxxx, I am not saying it's easy
Dr.
As I said earlier break up is difficult
today I walk up early.. say 5 o'clock in morning and then I was dying to talk to her.. I refrained myself very difficulty
Dr.
Every wound takes time to heal
Dr.
This will too
Dr.
But you can't afford to make more wounds, give that time for it to heal
I don't know why I don't have much people in my life.. for my introvertness or my niceness or what
I don't know how to get new close people in life
Dr.
xxxx, you have to start understanding that what is your priorities now, what should be your targets now
why girls put in frindzone to me
Dr.
xxxx, tell me how this answers will help you
Dr.
There is nothing wrong in being introvert, who told you extroverts are sorted all the time
i don't know ma'am.. I don't found myself in senses most of the times
Dr.
That's what you need to work on xxxx
the time she left.. it has substantially affected my self confidence in professional life as well
that's what I wants to know that how to work on it
Dr.
Answer me here.... If you have a bike and suddenly when you were taking it out in the morning it was not working what will you do
will try to get it serviced
Dr.
Yes, you will try to kick it or use self start or check fuel or take it for servicing
Dr.
Right?
yes correct
Dr.
Or you will give up because it's not working?
Dr.
In the same way when certain things are not working in life you have to start focusing on the solution
will try
Dr.
Not that you will keep looking at the broken bike
But I couldn't solve it
Dr.
But you will start figuring out how to start it
yes
But I don't know how to start it
Dr.
You couldn't because you are not allowing yourself . You still think about it
Dr.
Start taking small steps
Dr.
It's okay even if you are not able to start right now
Dr.
Tell me what was your goal in life
Dr.
Before she met you or during you were dating her
goal about?
her?
Dr.
Nope
Dr.
About your life
A great career with happy personal life
I always wanted a balanced life
today I think myself success in career wise
But it's spoiling just because of personal problems
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
What do you mean by great career
A good money generating white collar job was my career aim from my childhood
I'm a CA profession wise
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
So do you think you have such job
yes
I have so
and very stable it is
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
So don't you think that should be your priority now?
ma'am I'm telling you na that I always wanted a balanced life
nobody can work like machines
love is equally needed
Dr.
Yes it is equal
I get depressed when I'm not able to share my feelings to somebody
specially in the night time
Dr.
But when just because one side is missing you can not afford to ignore another
I gets high and not able to do anything or talk to anybody
I agree I can't afford to loose second one as well
Dr.
xxxx I understand all this
I'll get destroyed if I'll lost another one
I hope you understand what I mean by getting high..
In night time
Dr.
What I am trying to tell you this is do not lose something which you have now for something who has gone out of your life
sometimes in day as well
Dr.
I understand
it's causing me depression
bcos i left with nobody in life
Dr.
Then avoid it... xxxx you know what is the root cause of your problem
I also live alone apart from my parents
and feel myself lonely
what?
Dr.
Self control, lack of self control!!
Dr.
Drink or any thing which help you get high is not a solution
Dr.
Its just temporary thing
no no.. I didn't mean getting high by drink or drugs etc
Dr.
Its not gonna help you
Dr.
Then
Dr.
Can you be specific
Dr.
You there?
getting high meant for getting excited sexually and loosing self control
I meant sexually hogh
Dr.
Okay
and then feel myself alone
Dr.
Got it
and gets depressed
Dr.
Sorry for the misunderstanding
I seek people here and there to talk with
Dr.
It's natural xxxx...
when I gets high
Dr.
Here in the sense?
Dr.
Here and there means?
But my life is very lonely as of now
here and there means friends on my WhatsApp or contact list
Dr.
Yes, being lonely is difficult
Dr.
Okay
I try to start a conversation with them
Dr.
Okay
yes it's really difficult
Dr.
I understand
then what should I do
Dr.
But again xxxx... Just because you are lonely today does not mean you are gonna be like this forever
to be happy
Dr.
Definately of happiness does not mean that you can't be lonely
Dr.
It just mean that taking efforts to change the reality
Dr.
You just need to start thinking about your priorities, start having new goals in life
Dr.
Start working towards them
Dr.
Not only professional goal but person as well
Dr.
Exercise, read books, work on self improvement
ma'am I have tried my best
Dr.
That's good
Dr.
Keep trying till you bike starts xxxx... There is no short cut
I started gyming but failure
Dr.
What failure
I started dance class as well.. but also found it boring
I couldn't concentrate in gym
Dr.
How can you fail at gym? This means you stopped going
yes
Dr.
There is no need to concentrate at gym
Dr.
You just need to exercise
Dr.
How many days did you go
sometimes I start watching movie but gets bore in movie as well.. and 50% of time I'm not able to complete the movie
I went gym for two months
then flow broken
Dr.
Start again xxxx
should I?
Dr.
You have to keep putting efforts
and ma'am there is one more issue in gym
Dr.
Yes... Even if just for 30 mind
Dr.
Mins
my diet is not proper since she left.. I don't feel myself to have food..
Dr.
Okay
so gym is very difficult for that reason
Dr.
xxxx first thing first
Dr.
You have to go back to your daily routine
Dr.
No matter what
Dr.
I understand it seems impossible
Dr.
But its not when you start taking small steps
Dr.
Everyday take few efforts to have healthy lifestyle
okay
Dr.
Start eating every two hours, it can be as simple as having a fruit or couple of almonds
Dr.
When I say gym.. I am not expecting you to do heavy workout
Dr.
It can be as simple as going for a walk
I'll try improve my diet ma'am
Dr.
Or run
Dr.
Or meditation for 10-15 mins
and will also join the gym from today itself
Dr.
Great
Dr.
We will talk again in the next week
Dr.
Probably on Thursday
Dr.
Let me know about your progress
Dr.
Before that also if you need any help, I am just a message away
okay ma'am.. and if I'll find it necessary.. I'll ping you meanwhile
may I?
Dr.
Sure
Dr.
First try it on your own, if not then I am here
okay ma'am sure.. I'll try.. thanks a lot
Dr.
We will wrap our session now as I need to move on to the next patient
Dr.
Take care
Dr.
No problem, you are welcome
sure
Dr.
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