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Age: 28
Gender: Female
Topic: Psychiatry
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Location: Delhi

Indecisiveness , irritation, sinking , anger, laziness,lack in goal, negativity , suicidal, running away from everything, isolation lover etc etc

I would want you to ask me anything if required
I have given a brief as to what i feel
plz help me as I really have no clue that what exactly I need to do in order to be happy and lighten my head ...
Dr.
Good Afternoon xxxx! I am here to help you
Dr.
How are you
well apparently very good
but inner feelings are always contrary to it
Dr.
Okay
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Would you like to discuss this over a call
no I am absolutely ok with texting mode
Dr.
Okay no problem
ok
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Works for you?
?
as m not alone in my home
Dr.
Oh okay
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Sorry
it's ok
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We can continue here
sure
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Okay
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Let me read all your msgs
sure
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Tell me out of all the problems you have mentioned earlier what bothers you the most
mood swings is the worst thing I have been suffering from then temperament issues
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
Since when are you having this problem ?
I m a thyroid patient too
I really have no clue but 5 years ago I had a course for anxiety 3 years ago I again consuted
chronic issues since 2013
or 2012
meantime, I broke off with my 11 years of serious and first relationship
I got graduated in law and passed out in the year 2013
struggled for relationship and career at the same time
failed in both
parents wishes was to quit litigation
Dr.
Okay
2013 my studies and relationship was abruptly over
struggled for 4 years
Dr.
Okay
sexually harassed , swayed etc etc
still managed to cope up and stand for myslef
went into corporate sector 2015-2017
got married to simple man who is a CA from my town in 2017
Dr.
Okay
I was a singer, painter, loved driving, etc etc
I barely do My of these
cooking was my passion
I hate it to the core when it's for the routine
Dr.
Okay
after 8 Mo the of sitting idle after marriage , I decided to study further, so I have taken admission in pg for an year
Dr.
So now you do not engage yourself in all those things?
Dr.
Which you use to love earlier?
because jobs and other modern stuff is not allowed in my in laws side
absolutely none of those
and I believe I would never be able to do it again
Dr.
Okay
I tried for each of it
but everything faded with time
born n brought in an educated family, father is a doctor himslef
nuclear one
married in a huge family who are extremely orthodox people
on a promise that husband is a CA , and has been out so his outlook is different etc etc
but no matter how much patience and understanding he shows
I m still there where I was
altogether it's my inner feelings due to which I m suffering
Dr.
Okay
there have been few mistakes done by me due to my tender age, and tricky people,at different time, and by different people, and the main reason what I feel was may be I wanted to fill the vaccum created after my relationship called off
that kills me from within
daily
every moment
I feel disgusted
Dr.
I understand xxxx
I have been I to such feeling for like I can't remember since when
help me
my husband is a lazy fellow
he is either 10 to 11 hrs in the office
Dr.
xxxx, I can imagine it must be really difficult for you
n once he is home he will be on phone
and then remaining time he will sleep
Dr.
Okay
no feeling of motherhood also
don't want to have a child
Dr.
Okay
I am also a girl who have been molested since age 4
or 3
and then plathora of incidents
if u see superficially everything will be coated and cover well,with good degree, looks, achievement as well
but within I have messed up with everything
my childhood,my teenage,my career everything
Dr.
Okay
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I understand this xxxx, I can imagine how difficult it must be for you... But tell me one thing... What are you doing to come out of this on your own
Dr.
When there is a mess we need to clean
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Unless that it's not gonna sort things
Dr.
Life is not fair always but we can just figure out options on which we need to work on, right?
I ahve done nothing so far except to keep the grudge the repentance the anger the longingness etc etc
within me
and now I feel totally lost
Dr.
Do you think that's gonna help xxxx
even if someone gives me a diamond it doesn't matter
nothing matters to me now
I don't find peace
Dr.
It will not matter unless you are happy with yourself xxxx
Dr.
That's what matters right - you
even if I offer xxxx ,so long m offering m at peace but as soon m over with it , I again have the same feeling
Dr.
See people around you gonna behave the way they want, you have no control over others
Yess so my problem is that m not happy with myself
Dr.
But you have control over you
Dr.
You can change certain things to change your surroundings
Dr.
Your state of mind
trust me I don't even want to move a spoon
how can I change
Stillman managing home silently, cooking food,washing clothes , opening it ,arranging it, pleasing stupid relatives
everything I have to do normally
even though I don't feel like
Dr.
If you don't want to do something that does not mean you have to stop doing it... It will require you to put efforts to change it
I can pretend super well
Dr.
xxxx, there are two chooses when you are missing something in life
Dr.
Put hand on your head and keep crying about the loss or take efforts to figure out how you can get it back
Dr.
The choice is yours... I understand at times it is difficult
I don't want anything back
I just want to feel happiness
at ease
I want to be calm
Dr.
But we have to push ourselves and work towards it
not silent
Dr.
Yes that means you want your peace back
Dr.
I am also talking about the same
but u really think with such dark stuffs in my head I can feel the same
Dr.
If you want to eat you will have to move that spoon... And to move it you have to grab it first
Dr.
Yes you can
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No ones life is perfect
Dr.
Even mine is not
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We try to find comfort zone in dark places
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And accept it
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And that's not gonna help you
I have been working on it ....but then I find myself at the starting point
Dr.
It's okay start again
Dr.
Take your time
Dr.
Who told you that it's not same with others
tell me few dos and don't
I am ready to give it a try
Dr.
We learn from our mistakes and figure out how to go on
before I really end up in assylum, or a divorce
Dr.
First don't is don't give up... It's okay to fail
Dr.
Start planning things for yourself
what planning
Dr.
When you feel negative focus on those few good things which give you fuel
Dr.
Start with planning your day
xxxxnothing gives me fuel
Dr.
That's what you feel
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That's the first task
the only thing I still have a good feeling for ..is mountains....
that's it
Dr.
Unless you don't get task to do or goal to look forward, you will not feel like working
okey now plz tell me step wise
Dr.
What do you want me to tell you step wise
mind the root of everything
I need to tame my mind
if that's done then I can have hope
so how to trick my mind
tell me
Dr.
Okay
Dr.
You don't need to trick your mind
Dr.
First thing first
Dr.
Start planning what is it that you wished for yourself, which you were planning earlier but couldn't do it
Dr.
It can be as simple as completing your studies
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Or doing something which makes you happy or feel good
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Start working on self improvement
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Start reading books or having any hobby which suits you
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Exercise daily.. have it as a daily target or goal
I need to work on my thinking,my will power
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Yes xxxx
Dr.
See understand that whenever we are stressed or upset about something we only focus on negative aspects
Dr.
That's a human tendency
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However that does not mean that only negative things are happening from past 25 years in your life
true
Dr.
Truly it is difficult at times but we don't give up on car just because of few dents
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Yes xxxx
Dr.
We work on those dents and move on
after knowing all of it still it's so difficult to stand form on it
Dr.
Okay
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It is difficult because unfortunately it needs efforts xxxx
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It's not as easy as we think or talk
Dr.
But somewhere you need to start xxxx
Dr.
There is no shortcut to inner peace or happiness
Dr.
It's the time you invest in your self or for yourself
Dr.
Please tell me if you have more questions?
thanks a lot
I have got the gist
Dr.
Okay xxxx
it's Me who has to work hard to fight
Dr.
All the best
wish me good luck
Dr.
I hope you have the answers you were looking for, do check in with me tomorrow if any new questions come up.
sure ????
Dr.
Please get back to me if something is not helping
Dr.
Bye, take care
Dr.
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