PATIENT PROFILE
Age: 22
Gender: Female
Topic: Psychiatry
SubTopic: Depression
Chat Rating: star star star star star_half
Location: Kolkata

I m suffering from depression &anxiety since last 8 months I start crying suddenly thinking abot my Boyfrnd we had breakup on 20th jun. we were in a relationships since last 5yrs.This is really un- acceptable decision for me that he is not with me anymore.My mind can't accept this .I want him everytime everywhere still in every part of my Life.

Dr.
Hello xxxx, Welcome to DocsApp! I am the doctor’s assistant. Before your consultation with the doctor starts, it is important that you answer the following questions.
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Little interest or pleasure in doing things
Little interest or pleasure in doing things More than half the days
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Feeling down, depressed or hopeless
Feeling down, depressed or hopeless Nearly every day
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Trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or sleeping too much
Trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or sleeping too much Nearly every day
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Feeling tired or having little energy
Feeling tired or having little energy More than half the days
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Poor appetite or overeating
Poor appetite or overeating Not at all
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Feeling bad about yourself - or that you’re a failure or have let yourself or your family down
Poor appetite or overeating Not at all
Feeling bad about yourself - or that you’re a failure or have let yourself or your family down Not at all
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Trouble concentrating on things, such as reading the newspaper or watching television
Trouble concentrating on things, such as reading the newspaper or watching television Nearly every day
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Moving or speaking so slowly that other people could have noticed. Or, the opposite - being so fidgety or restless that you have been moving around a lot more than usual
Moving or speaking so slowly that other people could have noticed. Or, the opposite - being so fidgety or restless that you have been moving around a lot more than usual Several Days
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Thoughts that you would be better off dead or of hurting yourself in some way
Thoughts that you would be better off dead or of hurting yourself in some way Nearly every day
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Hi xxxx , Ms. xxxx will take up your case.
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Good Afternoon xxxx! I am here to help you, please tell me more about your problem.
Hello,mam this is xxxx from xxxx I m suffering from depression & anxiety It's like i always keep thinking abot my bf everyday everytime anywhere no matter what i m doing & i really wanna get out of this
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Okay
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I understand
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Would you like to discuss this over a call?
we had breakup on 20th jun ,I was in a relationship with him since last 5yrs
no mam actually right now i m in my homtown can't talk to u
over phone
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Okay
I would be comfrtable over here if u don't mind then
thank you
ya sure mam
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Okay then
okay mam????
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So we can discuss in detail
ya sure
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Let's discuss for now...
ya
i really wanna tell u something plz i want to get out of this ,I was not like how I m right now
Dr.
So what I understand is due to breakup you are unable to cope
ya
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Like how you are right noe
i m broken,scattered ,i feel scared to trust
everyone
i can't talk to anyone
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Okay
neither i feel any kind of interest in talking with anyone
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What do you do xxxx
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You studying or working
I m a student in 3rd yrs doing marketing honrs & side way m doing internship
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Okay
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So what I gather is, your breakup was not mutual?
It was kind of mutual bt he decided to leave becz according to him he tot ki we don't have love anymore in our relationshp & we were ruining each other life just bs fight hota tha & aftr that sb kuch normal
& again fight bt i was like in which relationship we don't fight
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Were you emotionally dependent on him xxxx
I never tot of loosing him
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Okay
ya,I used to need him whenever I used to feel low
or cry
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So tell me what have you done to come out of this ?
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I understand it must be difficult for you
I tried my level best To live my life to the fullest & still m trying bt I breakdown eventually
i try to learn new things everyday
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Like what new things
like right now i m learning painting & I m a singer
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Okay that's nice
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Is it helping
I like to sing so,I spend most of my time to sing & I m trying to read those kind of books which motivates me
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See xxxx, let me tell you couple of things
& try myself to keep busy in watching english series
ya mam
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When someone choses to leave our life especially the closest person, it's really hard
bt this all is not working out I still want him,in my life I stalk him everyday
with my sister acc
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It's hard because you have been with this person for 5 years and you are making plans by keeping him in mind
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But when he left
& almost text him everytime
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Everything feels empty
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And it's a natural reaction
does he don't felt any pain while leaving me
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But try and understand that we have less control over how others behave with us or what decision they take
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They have right to take their own decisions
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Right?
if he really felt ki this relationshp is not working then why did he prmsed me
to stay till end
ya, right
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As I said promising was his choice that does not stops him from taking any decision
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You do have have control over it
he always tell that he don't love me bt He used to post songs lyrics & used to dedicate song to me evn aftr we broke up
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What control you have is to take lead of your own lifw
he is telling me now that
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That's the way he is dealing with his break up
i m obsessed witg him
& my love has turn into severe want
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That's what you need to work on
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In order to move on
he says ki he can live in life all alone loving a person eternally even though if he don't get back the love from same person
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Being self dependent is very important
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You can not afford to punish yourself for someone else's mistakes
Mam, i have always being a self dependent women I always choose to work on thing s alone
rather than wanting some help frm other
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That's nice xxxx
bt I dreamed with him many things
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That's what you need to continue
which I can't imagine with anybody else
mam
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Though it seems difficult
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It's a past tense xxxx
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Tell me how you can change it?
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We have no control over certain things in life
He tells ki he has no love for me now bt my heart doesn't want to acceot this
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When you say you are self dependent that means you have to be self dependent emotionally
Evn right now i m texting u ,I m feeling like to crt
cry*
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There is a difference in doesn't want to accept and not accepting it
means
I couldn't get u mam
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See I will explain you with an example
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Okay?
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You own a car
ya mam
ya
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And because of someone else's mistake there is a dent on your car
ya
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No matter how difficult to see the the sent or how difficult to make it like earlier, even if you feel like not accepting the fact that there is a dent on your beautiful car... Does it gonna change the reality??
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Dent*
no mam
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The reality is because of someone else there is a dent
it won't i need to accept this ki this dent won't change
ya
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And not the solution is to start investing in your car
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And try to make it as it was earlier
then
what should i do
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And this solution you will get by only fixing it
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See one more thing
bt the mark will remain there forever
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When we were kids we were dependent on our parents... We had to do everything the way they told us
& will remind me always everytime whenver i see that particular dent
ya
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But when the time comes we learn to be independent
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Without any help
ya mam
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Dent will only be there if you give that dent importance
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There are people recover from acid attacks because they don't see those defects as problems but they see it as a learning
what If i fix that dent bt the sacrs remain there & evrytime I see I get remind of what happend
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No matter how ugly it is
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See what if is always gonna lead what you chose
before this relationship I had brekup with my last one too he cheated on me
I have always given my 110% in every relationshop
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You can also ask yourself what if I focus on myself, try to figure out how things will be better and what if they work for me
eveyone promises me that he won't leave bt lastly they do
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Everyone?
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How everyone will know it?
I have even got betrayed in my frndship
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Are they God or any supreme power?
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It was your choice to your best
I don't have good frnd whom i can trust blindly
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No one asked you right?
no
no one
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Exactly
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That was your choice, you wanted to be good... And that's what who you are
bt yy people r like this
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A good person
i have always wanted to be a good human being since child hood onece my teacher told me
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xxxx this ups and down are part gonna be part of your life
during my school days no matter u become a good engnier or doctor bt try to always become a good human being
i have never hurt anyone mam bt still people hurt me
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But struggling through and living the life you build for yourself lasts for longer
& leave me
on my condition alone
ya mam I try my best to convince myself & make my mind to accept this
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Yes xxxx
bt sometimes I get breakdown very badly
I start getting flashback
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Start working on your priorities
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Your career should be your priority for now
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You will get enough time for relationship and all
ya ,Mam
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Focus on what is important right now
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Do well
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So one day he will regret of leaving you
bt what If I get flashback
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And it's not your loss its his
or want him to talk to him
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You have to be strong
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Every wound takes time to heal
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This will also take some time
I think the only option left in my life to heal
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But when you are clear of your priorities
ya mam
even I texted him today again that I m referring to a physiatrist for my mental issue he wanted
to stay with me
as a good frnd
as a good frnd
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Okay, so let's wrapp this session now... Write down your priorities an start work towards it
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Also we will speak again next week to see the improvement
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Okay?
ya mam
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I hope you have the answers you were looking for, do check in with me tomorrow if any new questions come up.
I will be working bt Right now i have written down
some of my wildest dream
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Don't worry xxxx, you will recover from it
which i wanted to fulfill in my life
ya mam,thank you so much
I hope I get fine
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Take care
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All the best
& start living in a same way i used to do
thank you mam☺
take care
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